Healing from Childhood Abuse
You might’ve been so affected by your abusive childhood that resilience may seem nonexistent. Although being raised by abusive parents might make resilience harder to build, you are still resilient whether you believe it or not. And like anyone else, you can learn how to build resilience and improve upon it.
If you were raised by narcissists, you likely struggle with your identity, not really knowing who you are. Narcissistic parents tend to make their children an extension of them. It’s like their children aren’t allowed to be their own people. Part of healing means finding yourself after the abuse you experienced. Learn more at hopefulpanda.com
If you had abusive parents, you likely struggle with your identity, not really knowing who you are. Narcissistic parents particularly make their children an extension of them. It’s like their children aren’t allowed to be their own people. Part of healing means finding yourself after the abuse you experienced.
If you've gone through childhood abuse, you may be overly apologetic. You may say sorry for anything and everything. Maybe you do it in hopes to avoid or minimize punishment or ridicule. Or maybe you think it's your fault. But there are some things you can stop apologizing for.
If you and your parent are a little too close for comfort, almost like you're a couple, you may be experiencing emotional incest, also known as covert incest or covert sexual abuse. Learn more about emotional incest as well as its signs, causes, effects, and how to heal at hopefulpanda.com
We all have our inner critics. That inner critic can be especially harsh, perhaps even debilitating, if you suffered constant verbal and emotional abuse growing up. Part of healing involves learning how to stop that negative self-talk so you can be kinder to yourself.
Acceptance is necessary because there are things we can’t change. So sometimes, accepting is the only thing you can do in order to move forward and begin healing from your childhood abuse. You must accept your past, your parents, your journey ahead, and most importantly, yourself. Read more about acceptance at hopefulpanda.com
If you have a narcissistic parent in your life, it’s important to shield yourself from their abuse as much as you can. As someone with a narcissistic mother, I went through a lot of trial and error to learn how to best deal with a narcissistic parent that seems to be the least destructive and harmful to my well-being.
Most people want to be in a long-term, loving, healthy relationship. But to be in one takes hard work, dedication, and effort from both individuals. And when you’ve been through some sort of trauma or abuse, it adds even more obstacles. However, it IS possible. Learn more about each sign at hopefulpanda.com
When your first-ever relationship was with abusive parents, it sets a precedent for unhealthy relationships later on. Thus, it’s important to learn the signs of a healthy relationship to ensure you won’t be stuck in an unhealthy relationship like the one with your parents. Read more at Hopeful Panda
The topic of self-awareness doesn’t often come up when talking about healing from childhood abuse. But learning self-awareness benefits and strategies can be very beneficial. It can even be argued that self-awareness IS essential for healing. Read the article at Hopeful Panda
When we're so used to being ridiculed and criticized, we end up doing it to ourselves, probably way more than we realize. It's almost easy to be mean to ourselves. But the issue with treating ourselves like this is that we're pretty much abusing ourselves. And if we continue to abuse ourselves, we can't heal. Read more at hopefulpanda.com
There are many alternative forms of therapies out there. It doesn’t have to be just you and a therapist sitting in some office talking things through. While a lot of therapies on this list are similar to traditional talk therapy in the sense that counseling and talking are involved, there are still enough differences that you could consider giving them a try. Some therapies are also more effective at treating specific conditions than others, so find one that works for you.
When uncomfortable or overwhelming emotions come up, you might be tempted to go to harmful or self-destructing lengths to make yourself feel better or avoid your feelings. However, it’s important that you learn healthy coping skills for those uncomfortable emotions. Learn more at hopefulpanda.com
Do you have trouble knowing how to properly identify and meet your own needs? That’s common for people who have been through childhood abuse. Here is a summary of various questions to ask yourself to better identify and meet your needs.
Being able to set boundaries is essential for your mental and emotional health. Learning how to set boundaries with a narcissistic parent might be even more important, especially when they seem to have no regard for personal boundaries. Learn more at hopefulpanda.com
If you’ve had abusive parents, then you likely lacked a lot of love in your life, the love you deserved as a child. But since you’re older now, the only one who can unconditionally love you is yourself. The concept of self-love also encompasses other concepts.
If you had abusive or neglectful parents, there's likely many things you didn't learn from them that you should have. Things like how to establish healthy boundaries, manage your emotions, build resilience, communicate, tolerate frustration, be accountable, and self-love are likely things you need to teach yourself. Read the article to learn more at hopefulpanda.com
Boundaries create a safe space for you. However, when you’re stuck in an abusive environment as a child, you have no choice but to give up that safe space as a way to protect yourself. But now as an adult, it's important to learn how to set healthy boundaries for your own protection, well-being, and healing. Learn more at hopefulpanda.com
Not everyone is excited about the holidays. It can actually be a dreadful time for many people, especially those who experienced childhood abuse. This article discusses what holiday triggers are, how your childhood abuse might've caused them, and various ways on how to cope
Just because you've been made a victim doesn't mean you have to stay as one. This is meant to help you. It is not easy and it will take time. But that’s all a part of healing. Be compassionate and kind to yourself. Give yourself all the attention and time you need. And don’t be afraid to ask for help and support. Do not underestimate your power and strength. You can take control of your life, even if it doesn’t feel that way.