It isn't fair when you know a simple thought from them could rearrange you. All that remains is the hope that somewhere along the way you discarded a stronger more vivacious version of yourself. A fragment to be called upon when you have nothing left.
This is exactly why my husband and I are so open about our horrible pasts! It inspires people who are currently going through the same thing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and that God can change their circumstances!