You really can get soft light, with a little help from The Pop-Up Flash Bounce. ---(I like the comparison pics but the product name makes me think of some sort of stripper move -pop-up-flash-bounce-) is it just me?
DIY Headboard - Bob Vila Star Light, Star Bright Want to create a tranquil atmosphere conducive to rest? Hang string lights over a dark-painted wall, with sheer curtains to soften and diffuse the effect. This headboard deﬁnitely lights up the night.