It comes down to one word: Control. They want to control us. Sexualizing everything about us invalidates us in their eyes. But if we are sexual on our own, it's a rebellion of sorts because it takes their power away.
he has helped through more than most people think and if i ever get to meet him, i am telling both him and phil that. they and others are my superheroes, and they all deserve to know that. thank you dan howell and phil lester for helping me.